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17Sexual fantaisies during adolescence...
Issue 17 | Spring 2011
by Sophie Pilon
Many people have strong emotional reactions when they hear the word fantasy, and for good reason! Not only does this word refer to a more intimate sphere of life, but many media use the concept to seduce consumers by linking it with sensational, frivolous and sometimes even wild sexuality. As a result, it can seem diffi cult, or even untimely for professionals who work with young people to tackle a topic as sensitive as this one because they may feel like they are treading on dangerous ground. This issue of The SexEducator sets out to show the importance and relevance of discussing this subject with adolescents aged 15 to 17, and to suggest concrete interventions to help you meet this goal. We invite you to take up this challenge because sexual fantasies are much more than simple sexual or obscene thoughts: they are the foundations of our sexuality and forge our identities (Crépault and Lévesque, 2001).
Some messages suggest standards that can be erroneously perceived as ideals to be achieved. For instance, popular belief says that a person should desire all the time and, therefore, focus excessively on his or her fantasmatic universe. Other messages encourage young—and not so young—people to reveal or live out their sexual fantasies, even though it isn’t always appropriate to do so. When young people are bombarded with messages that are not necessarily representative of their fantasies and that tend to confuse imagination and reality, their points of reference are shaken up and they can experience a range of emotions that they sometimes have trouble understanding and managing. Moreover, some researchers worry about the effect that electronic media may have on development of young people’s brains and fantasies (Doidge, 2008).
When all is said and done, isn’t it right to want to cultivate adolescents’ knowledge, critical thinking and judgement by dealing with the issue of sexual fantasy?
See the activities suggested in this issue
1Activity 1
Sexual fantasies! Ooh la la!

Finding a definition for fantasies and sexual fantasies

Pedagogical goals:
  • Define fantasy and sexual fantasy
  • Present the effects of a limited and sensationalistic vision of fantasies
  • Explain the functions of sexual fantasies

Audience:
For secondary IV and V students.

Duration:
30 minutes
2Activity 2
Facts and fiction about sexual fantasies

Team reflexion on facts and fiction associated to sexual fantasies.

Pedagogical goals:
  • Demystify the notion of sexual fantasy.
  • Know how fantasies contribute to sexual development and the negative effects fantasies can have.

Audience:
For secondary IV and V students.

Duration:
30 minutes
3Activity 3
To tell or not to tell? To live it out or not?

Team reflection about risks and benefits linked to revealing fantasies.

Pedagogical goals:

To determine, based on the scenarios, the risks and benefits linked to revealing or living out sexual fantasies using sexual health criteria

Audience:
For secondary IV and V students.

Duration:
30 minutes
Sexual fantaisies during adolescence...
Issue 17 - Spring 2011 - by Sophie Pilon
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No 17 – The SexEducator – Sexual fantasies during adolescence

This issue covers the following topics, among others:
  • Fantasy… a word that gets thrown around a lot!
  • But what exactly if a fantasy?
  • What is a “sexual” fantasy?
  • Sexual dreams
  • What is the purpose of sexual fantasy?
  • Eight facts and fiction associated with sexual fantasies
  • Toward an education that harmonizes what is imaginary and what is real
  • Revealing of living out a fantasy… uh, what does that mean?
  • Calculating the risks and benefits before living out a fantasy
  • Criteria for sexual health
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Other issues
  • Communication in adolescent couples
  • Toward improving adolescents' contraception use
  • Counteracting the trivialization of sexual exploitation
  • Talking sexuality with your parents
  • Our Romeos: All they think about is sex, right ?
  • The bi trend: Open mindedness or trivialization?
  • FLIRTING ON LINE: Toward a safe and fulfilling exploration of self and others
  • Youth and sexism, from inequality to indifference
  • Flirting with seduction
  • Sexual fantaisies during adolescence...
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